Here are 5 You-Can-Do-It ways to boost your confidence!
5 You-Can-Do-It Ways to Boost Your Confidence
Whether they understand *I lack confidence* or not, lots of people simply don’t believe in themselves. I have the joy of working with lots of people who mostly need a boost in confidence in order to start the adventure of becoming who they need to be.
Let’s talk about some ways to kick lacking-confidence in the butt… or how about: here are 5 YOU-CAN-DO-IT ways to boost your confidence.
Confront Your Lies
Everyone has lies they have learned over time.
- I’m just that way…
- I can’t…
- I’m no good…
- No one would want what I have to offer…
- I’m not good enough for anything…
- I could never…
What are your lies? The way you recognize a lie is to catch the *absolute negative* statements you make to yourself. It begins with *I* and ends with a self-criticism that leaves you feeling hopeless and shut down.
The first thing to do is recognize that the lie is there. Then, as an act of faith, confront the lie: HEY LIE, I’ve caught you and I’m going to retrain myself to stop listening to you and START finding the truth!
Self-talk the Truth
Once you’ve caught the lie, turn it 180 degrees around and that will most likely be the truth. Somewhere in his teachings (I totally forget where), C.S. Lewis explained the concept of *bifurcation*. Bifurcation is the concept of opposites: for every good and beautiful thing God creates in us, satan tries to come up with a negative lie that is pretty much opposite to lure us away.
As long as we are living in the bifurcation, we are looking at the opposite of what God has placed into us and planned for us.
Turn it around. Start talking to yourself about the truth. It helps to look in the mirror, make eye contact with yourself and say it out loud until you brain rewires itself.
- I’m resilient and adaptable to new things…
- I CAN…
- I’m good enough to do whatever God gives me to do…
- I will be a blessing…
- I can do whatever I need to do…
- I could try and I can succeed…
Do Something New
One of the best things that you can do for yourself is to go do something new.
- find a MOOC and complete the whole thing
Here’s one new thing to get started with: Confidence-building skills for meeting new people.
- hike a new trail
- take a painting class
- visit a new town nearby
- attend a world music concert
- volunteer at a refugee center
- write a government official about a cause
- attend a retreat
It doesn’t matter what it is, it just need to be new. The physiological benefits of doing new things will help you feel more confident. The pride you feel in doing the new thing will boost your confidence.
Don’t be Ashamed of Your Weaknesses
We all have weaknesses. Everyone.
Let go of the shame. Then you can find workarounds for the weaknesses. Workaround are there when you look!
Lean into Your Strengths
Everyone has strengths. Lean into them. Develop them. You are responsible to grow your God-given strengths!
- Take a MOOC or course at a local college
- Read up and practice!
- Get a coach and work on it!
This is what I’m all about: Coaching people for confidence boosting so that they can fulfill who they were created to be. You need this.
Contact me today to get started with the coaching process. I will work with you face to face or by phone or Skype.