• Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to primary sidebar
  • Skip to footer

Vicki Tillman Coaching

Find Meaning in Your Life.

  • Home
  • About
  • Services
  • Resources
  • Blog
  • Contact
  • Schedule

college freshmen

  • Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)

Before-College to At-College Transition: 10 Look-Like-a-Senior Skills

August 25, 2016 by Vicki Tillman 2 Comments

Before-College to At-College Transition: 10 Look-Like-a-Senior Skills

College Skills VickiTillmanCoaching.com

Before-College to At-College Transition: 10 Look-Like-a-Senior Skills

This is move-in week for thousands of college freshmen around the country. It is also a fun time for us life coaches because we have the honor of boosting the confidence of students who are in the Before-College to At-College Transition. Here are 10 *look-like-a-senior skills* that I share with my freshmen coachees:

*Write down your goals and attach it to your closet door or something you’ll see every week. If you don’t write it and read it, you’ll forget it: Why are you in college? At THAT college? In THAT major?Confidence-Building Skills for Meeting New People VickiTillmanCoaching.com

*Download the freebie Meeting New People: Review it. These are skills you’ll need for the rest of your life.

*Leave your dorm room door open if you’re in the room. Easiest way in the world to make friends.

*If there’s a dorm or academic department activity do it (use your skills from Meeting New People). May sound stupid or boring- that’s not the point. The point is to network, meet people, make connections.

*Join a campus organization or activity during the first week at school. If you have an interest area, it is usually easy to find a group. If you don’t have an interest area, randomly pick some out until you find one that fits your personality. Again, the point is networking, meeting people, making connections.

*Make a class/study schedule (start out with planning 2 hours of study for each hour in class). For the first 2 weeks follow it, then you can adjust.

*Visit your professors during office hours (find something to ask or just tell them your mentor said to visit). This will benefit you in a gazillion ways. The teacher will know you give a flip. Opportunities might come your way.

*Volunteer in the departmental office. Just tell one of your profs or the departmental admin that you’d love to be a help: take out the trash, run errands, participate in research.

*Sit in the T-zone in class (first 2 or 3 rows or right down the middle). Believe me, it works.

*Take handwritten notes in class. There’s good research on the usefulness of handwritten classnotes for academic success.

*Type up your notes. I’ve heard this from students over the years. After class, type up your notes. It helps your brain digest and remember the information.

For more help with the Before-College to At-College Transition, contact me today!

Before-College to At-College Transition: 10 Look-Like-a-Senior Skills

Filed Under: Life transitions, Uncategorized Tagged With: college freshmen, Life transitions

  • Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)

College Freshmen Leaving for College: How a Parent Can Help

August 17, 2016 by Vicki Tillman Leave a Comment

College Freshmen Leaving for College: How a Parent Can Help

Freshmen leaving for college VickiTillmanCoaching.com

College Freshmen Leaving for College: How a Parent Can Help

It’s tough for parents dropping that first kid off at college. It’s even tougher the when we drop that second kid at their dorm- because we remember how hard it was leaving that first kid on their own!

This is one of the crucial times in parents’ lives! We have to let our kids grow up…and we have to let go…AND we still have to be available. How, how, how can we do it?

Here are 9 tips I’ve learned as a mom and a coach about college freshmen leaving for college: how a parent can help.

3 tips for discussions with our freshmen before leaving for college:

  • Discuss their goals. Your young persons might forget they can’t succeed without goals. Without goals any human will loose time and motivation and be easily sidetracked.
  • Discuss your expectations. If you are paying for college, you have a voice (but not control).
  • Pray.

3 tips for dropping college freshmen off at the dorm:

  • Accompany them to their dorm room, help carry their stuff in, act excited about how cool it will look when they get everything arranged.
  • Leave…as in, go home. Don’t linger, try not to cry, don’t make a fuss. You want to leave your freshmen feeling like you have all the confidence in the world in them.
  • Get in the car and cry all the way home if you want. THAT’S okay…then PRAY.

3 tips for handling your college freshmen’s first semester:

  • Don’t call them every day. Really. Don’t. Give them space to grow. If you are their best friend, they might not make new ones- which isn’t cool.
  • Don’t be a helicopter parent. Be available if they have questions but don’t do their work or their advocating for them. This is hard because you could handle their glitches or concerns so much more quickly and efficiently…but then your freshman is robbed of the chance to learn vital life skills.
  • Let them make their own mistakes…unless you suspect self-harm, addiction, complete lostness. Then you step in and help them connect to resources and safety. Otherwise, some stupid mistakes make unforgettable learning experiences. (The only way to handle this tip is to place your freshmen in God’s care, in other words: PRAY.) Ignatian Examen VickiTillmanCoaching.com

It actually does take a lot of prayer (and support) to let your teens become a fully-alive college freshmen! It’s worth the investment. Walk through this life transition with support: contact me at VickiTillmanCoaching.com.

College Freshmen Leaving for College: How a Parent Can Help

Filed Under: Life transitions, Relationship Skills, Uncategorized Tagged With: college freshmen, Life transitions, Parenting, Relationship Skills

Primary Sidebar

Search

Testimonial

  • I’m grateful for Vicki’s wise and prayerful coaching. She asks pointed questions that have allowed me to see new perspectives and challenged my misconceptions of self with God’s Word. Working with her has equipped me with tools to make healthier choices and to build stronger personal and work-based relationships.

    - BD

Schedule an Appointment

Want to get started? Book an appointment through my Calendy.

Sign-up for Vicki’s Newsletter

Footer

What We Do

  • Coaching Services
  • Speaking Services
  • Other Services

Social Media

Sign-up for Vicki's Newsletter!

Contacting Us

Email: Vicki@VickiTillmanCoaching.com

Call: 302-738-6859
Pike Creek Psychological Center
8 Polly Drummond Hill Rd
Newark, DE 19711

Form: Setup an Appointment

© 2023· Vicki Tillman Coaching · All Rights Reserved