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20-Something World Implosion: How to Un-implode!
What is 20-something world implosion? How to un-implode it?
20-Something World Implosion: How to Un-implode!
20-Somethings are some of my favorite coachees. Here’s something I’ve noticed with many of you:
Your world implodes in the 2 years after college!
What is *world implosion*?
When you’re in college there’s a lot of life happening organically. You naturally know people from classes, dorms, organizations and activities. You develop GREAT friendships. Often, you find a significant other. And you really didn’t have to work that hard at making these relationships. They happen because of proximity: you are simply around each other. Proximity gives you a world, a life!
Then graduation happens… and people get real jobs, real careers, in really far-away places. Very often the wonderful peer-group of college days spreads out all over America.
What happens next is you are going to work, coming home, maybe stopping at the gym on the way home. Then the next day you are going to work, coming home, maybe stopping at the gym on the way home.
Before you know it, it feels like you DON’T have a world, and WHAT’S a life?
Sound familiar? Well then: 20-Something world implosion…how to un-implode?
Here are 3 steps to un-implode your world:
- Get out of denial. You aren’t going to get a life the way you got a life in college. Life usually doesn’t happen like that once you’re in the workforce.
- Face the need to get busy. I know you’re tired, but you’re going to have to get busy anyway- doing NEW things.
- Start exploring. Find a new thing to do each week. Look online. Local online news sources or meet-ups often list open activities of community organizations. Find a group that is doing something interesting or useful (running or hiking groups, book clubs, Habitat for Humanity, churches- things like that). Plan on visiting 2 groups a month until you find your thing(s).
- Visit the first time, use your social skills. Download the FREEBIE Confidence-Building Skills for Meeting New People for tips on breaking into a new group. Remember, when you’re the newbie in a group, the group has to prove itself to you (*Are they friendly?*) not you proving yourself to the group (NOT: *Are you interesting?*).
- Keep exploring. Eventually you will land on a group that is so much fun and so friendly that you’ll keep going back. Those people will become your new peer group.
- As you keep the adventure going, your world will become bigger– not in the same way it happened in college. When you’re 20-Something world un-implosion won’t really be organic; it must be intentional!
One thing that really helps when you’re un-imploding your world is to know yourself well and feel comfortable with who you are. The best way to do this is to work with a life transition coach. Contact me today to get started on the adventure of un-imploding your world!
20-Something World Implosion: How to Un-implode!
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Humility is Thinking about Yourself Less
Humility is Thinking about Yourself Less
When you are ready for the journey of humble self-discovery, ready to truly know yourself and where you should be headed, contact me at VickiTillmanCoaching.com.
Humility is Thinking about Yourself Less
Where You Are Right Now Matters
Where you are right now matters. Where you are headed matters, too!
Where you are right now matters. Your life matters. Your gifts matter.
Remember that when you are in transition. Everyone goes through transitions…graduating high school or college, marriage, relocations, or simply times of feeling like “This is NOT what I signed up for…”.
It is easy to get stuck in a transition time. Easy but not necessary.
That’s what coaching is here for. To help guide you through those transitions, to help you find your way, to make the journey and ADVENTURE not a trauma.
Vicki Tillman will be your coach and guide as you:
- Discover your gifts, your mission, your possibilities
- Dream the God-given dreams about what happens next and what the adventure will be like
- Discover the skills and tools you need to thrive all the way through your journey
If you are searching for a meaningful career, Vicki will help you:
- Discover your gifts, understand the ways God has been working through you and in you throughout your journey so far
- Dream about various career options and pray about God’s will
- Devolop your practical college or job application skills, your soft skills and networking abilities, and your confidence in interviewing
If you are going through a life transition of any sort due to relocations, grief, or any other event that forces change in your life, Vicki will help you:
- Discover your strengths for thriving through this transition so that it becomes an adventure, not a burden
- Dream about what it looks like for you to flourish in the present and even more so, in the future
- Develop the skills, confidence and networking strengths that will give you the courage to launch on this great journey feeling strong
If you are going to get married (or are a young married couple) and are ready for DELIGHTFUL pre-marital coaching. Vicki will be your certified SYMBIS (Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts) facilitator. She will invite you to take the fun, online SYMBIS questionnaire and using those results, Vicki will help you:
- Discover your strengths as a couple and compensate for your potential weaknesses
- Dream about your lives together as a flourishing, healthy couple
- Develop the skills you need to communicate, love, and respect each other
Where you are matters. There is a good, meaningful, flourishing life ahead. Contact Vicki today to get your journey underway!