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Don’t Get Stuck in a Quarterlife Crisis: 5 Ways Out

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Don’t get stuck! Here are 5 ways out of quarter-life crisis.

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5 Ways Out of Quarter-life Crisis

This is NOT the life you signed up for! Not the relationships you thought you’d be enjoying by now. Not the faith you thought you were going to be solid in. And definitely not the lifestyle you were planning on when you earned your degree to the tune of big student loans.

The 20-somethings I work with are often at a forced turning point in life. They cannot live happily the way things are. They are not alone: quarter-life crisis is huge in the western world. Britain’s Daily Mail reported up to 73% of young Brits are experiencing the same thing.

1) Get out of your own way. Go volunteer. You can’t figure out the way out of crisis by simply mulling on it. Get your mind on others. It is good for your soul and makes space for new ideas. (Not that you need to become a professional volunteer, it is simply good for the journey- and for the folks you help.)

2) Do new things. Sometimes a quarter-lifer’s world purely implodes. Same old routines, same old people, same old stuff, same old expectations aren’t doing the same thing for you anymore. Start doing one new thing each week. Find meetup groups that are prepping for cause-oriented 5ks, churches that are doing meaningful growth groups. Find organizations that are making life happen.

3) Acceptance. Life sucks. Well, not all the time. But parts of it do. Paying bills, especially student loans, sucks. Finding out that you’re not the top of the lineup in life is awful. Accept it, then find the things that are good and concentrate on them. You will find them when you look.Trail-Guide-to-Carerr-Exploration-for-Adults

4) Re-evaluate. You might be able to switch or upgrade careers. But don’t do anything rash. Take a moment are re-evaluate who you are and what you’re about. If you aren’t sure or if you haven’t thought about it for a while, download the Trail Guide to Writing a Personal Mission Statement and the Trail Guide to Career Exploration for Adults. They are great first steps on a new portion of your life journey.

5) Get a mentor. That’s what Life Transitions Coaching is all about. It helps to have a wise guide through this part of your life journey. Contact me: I’ll help guide you through the quarter-life crisis and into the adventure of a fulfilling and meaningful life.

5 Ways out of Quarter-life Crisis

 

How to Help Teens Choose a College Major

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Need help with how to help teens choose a college major?

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How to Help Teens Choose a College Major

Some people are born knowing their life calling. Most of us discover that calling as we journey through life. It helps a lot if teens have a wise guide to help them. This can be a parent, mentor, or coach.

I am often asked by parents how to help teens choose a college major. Also, sometimes mentors, such as youth group leaders, need to have some tools to help their teens with that adventure.

Here are the suggestions that I share.

How to help teens choose a college major:

*Urge them to get busy. They don’t discover their calling by sitting still. Join organizations. Hang out with friends.

*Encourage them to try new things, earn lots of service hours.

*Help them arrange a chat with working adults and college students about why they chose what they chose (even if the teens are not interested in that career, the information helps).

*Guide them through a useful Career Exploration curriculum that reveals their gifts, talents, values, and the meaning of their life experiences so far. It helps if the curriculum helps them understand how to seek God’s will for them. (This is exactly the curriculum that I developed for teens The Career Exploration Bundle. You can find it at 7SistersHomeschool.com.)Career Exploration BUNDLE 7SistersHomeschool.com

*Show them how to tool around Onet.com to find career descriptions,level of training needed, and occupational outlook (job market of the near future). (This is the US Department of Labor’s tool for Career Exploration.)

*Help them look at several college websites for potential majors that train students for careers they have shown interest in. Look at local state, Christian and private colleges. Expand your search through Google or College Board’s Big Future page. Compare required courses for the majors in each of the colleges. This may vary widely. Compare entrance requirements. This is time consuming but vital because different colleges offer slightly different majors.

*Have them capture their discoveries in writing. What are their gifts/talents, interests, weaknesses, values? What have they learned from interviews, activities and service? Which college majors at which colleges look like they will fit best? Use the VickiTillmanCoaching.com freebie: How to Choose a College Major.

*Remind them that life is an adventure and that college major choice is a journey. They can’t know their entire life’s callings right now. God will direct their paths…being ON the path is the best way for teens to make themselves available to God’s directing.

*Contact me at  V[email protected] to work with a wise guide with lots of experience in helping teens with the adventure of choosing college majors.

How to Help Teens Choose a College Major

5 Things to Do When You Must Choose (or Re-Choose) a Career

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What do you do when you absolutely must choose or re-choose a career?

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Choose (or Re-Choose) a Career

Life happens. There are times when change comes whether you asked for it or not. What about those times when you must choose a career?

  • Maybe it is high school graduation and time for a real job

Or it happened that you must RE-choose a career?

  • Maybe it is college graduation and you just realized there are limited opportunities for communication majors
  • Maybe you’ve been downsized and the job market in your field is a wasteland

What do you do? Here are 5 things that will actually help when you need to choose or re-choose a career.

  1. Don’t panic! If you panic, you’ll spin your wheels. Instead frame this experience in a healthy way: God has brought you an adventure. Think of this as a journey. It will be exciting to see what God does next! (This is a good time to contact me to do some Career Coaching, btw.)Trail-Guide-to-Carerr-Exploration-for-Adults
  2. Discover and redefine. Spend a little time going back to square one about yourself. Take a look at your personality, strengths, weaknesses, values, and interests. Think about the things God has shown you through your life experiences. Discover a few new things about yourself; remember and redefine the things you have forgotten. Download Trail Guide to Career Exploration for Adults to help you do this. Then download the Trail Guide to Writing Your Personal Mission Statement as the last step in discovering and redefining yourself.
  3. Dream big and decide your limits. If you had a magic wand right now, what would you simply LOVE to do as a career? Spend a little time exploring O-Net, the Dept of Labor’s resource for all things career. You can find job descriptions, outlook for future in that job, and suggestions of similar jobs. Also decide your limits…How long can you wait before you have to take a temporary position? Sometimes career development is a process that requires a short time at Plan B jobs.Trail Guide to Writing Your Personal Mission Statement VickiTillmanCoaching.com
  4. Develop your tools. Do you need to update your resume? Refresh your interviewing skills? Time to get busy! That is part of what you will do in your coaching with me at VickiTillmanCoaching, we can work through Skype or Google Hangouts to discuss and develop your skills.
  5. Do some good deeds. I’m not kidding. Remember, what you sow you reap. You need some good to happen to you, so make some good happen for someone else. That’s how the kingdom of God works.

Go have an adventure! God has you on a new career journey so enjoy the process. Contact me when you’d like to have a guide through the process!

Choose (or Re-Choose) a Career

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Where You Are Right Now Matters

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Where you are right now matters. Where you are headed matters, too!

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Where you are right now matters. Your life matters. Your gifts matter.
Remember that when you are in transition. Everyone goes through transitions…graduating high school or college, marriage, relocations, or simply times of feeling like “This is NOT what I signed up for…”.

It is easy to get stuck in a transition time. Easy but not necessary.

That’s what coaching is here for. To help guide you through those transitions, to help you find your way, to make the journey and ADVENTURE not a trauma.

Vicki Tillman will be your coach and guide as you:

  • Discover your gifts, your mission, your possibilities
  • Dream the God-given dreams about what happens next and what the adventure will be like
  • Discover the skills and tools you need to thrive all the way through your journey

If you are searching for a meaningful career, Vicki will help you:

  • Discover your gifts, understand the ways God has been working through you and in you throughout your journey so far
  • Dream about various career options and pray about God’s will
  • Devolop your practical college or job application skills, your soft skills and networking abilities, and your confidence in interviewing

If you are going through a life transition of any sort due to relocations, grief, or any other event that forces change in your life, Vicki will help you:

  • Discover your strengths for thriving through this transition so that it becomes an adventure, not a burden
  • Dream about what it looks like for you to flourish in the present and even more so, in the future
  • Develop the skills, confidence and networking strengths that will give you the courage to launch on this great journey feeling strong

If you are going to get married (or are a young married couple) and are ready for DELIGHTFUL pre-marital coaching. Vicki will be your certified SYMBIS (Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts) facilitator. She will invite you to take the fun, online SYMBIS questionnaire and using those results, Vicki will help you:

  • Discover your strengths as a couple and compensate for your potential weaknesses
  • Dream about your lives together as a flourishing, healthy couple
  • Develop the skills you need to communicate, love, and respect each other

Where you are matters. There is a good, meaningful, flourishing life ahead. Contact Vicki today to get your journey underway!