• Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to primary sidebar
  • Skip to footer

Vicki Tillman Coaching

Find Meaning in Your Life.

  • Home
  • About
  • Services
  • Resources
  • Blog
  • Contact
  • Schedule
  • Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)

3 Reasons Why Courtesy is Cool and Makes You Cool and Employable

October 1, 2017 by Vicki Tillman Leave a Comment

Here are 3 reasons why courtesy is cool and makes you cool and employable.

3 Reasons Why Courtesy is Cool and Makes You Cool and Employable VickiTillmanCoaching.com

3 Reasons Why Courtesy is Cool and Makes You Cool and Employable

I was listening to a recorded lecture by the late poet John O’Donahue. This poet, priest and philosopher said something that caught my attention: He said that we needed to be “courteous to ourselves”.

Courtesy is not a word we use often in my generation. It fell away during the 1960’s and 70’s when my generation ditched etiquette because we saw too many people who could BEHAVE politely but had poisonous souls. We wanted to be *real*. (*What you see is what you get!*)

So my generation was real but many of us became *real* selfish, *real* harsh, *real* unkind, *real* ungrounded. Courtesy wasn’t enough if someone was *fake*. But no-courtesy had bad results, too.

Now, many decades later, we are finding out that old-fashioned words like *courtesy* don’t actually have that much to do with the rigid systems of etiquette like we were taught by our parents. Rather, *courtesy* is a synonym for *kindness, compassion, thoughtfulness, virtuous practices*.

AND it’s back! Here are 3 reasons why courtesy is cool and makes you cool… and employable.

*Courtesy is cool because it is in the Urban Dictionary: a thoughtful gesture or action. Example: Don’t forget to do that courtesy thing I told you about before we came over.

*Courtesy is cool because it is biologically good for you. Doing courteous acts or even WATCHING courteous acts raises your oxytocin levels (a calming, feel better hormone). It also activates your parasympathetic nervous system which tells your body to *Calm down!*

*Courtesy is cool because it makes you more employable. Many employers have found that courteous people often make better employees. They have found that backbiting, negative, critical team members decrease productivity, creativity and cohesiveness of the team. On the other hand team members who exhibit positive and virtuous practices experience:

  • Better team relationships
  • More creativity
  • Less blaming, more forgiving
  • Inspiring others
  • Find more meaning in work

Who should you show courtesy to?

*Yourself! Negative self-talk causes shrinkage on your brain cells. Truthful, kind, positive self-talk does exactly the opposite! Like John O’Donohue said, “Be courteous to yourself.”

*Strangers! Random acts of kindness are simply acts of courtesy. These are good for the giver and the receiver of the kindness. Try:

  • Holding doors open for people
  • Smiling and saying *thank you* to cashiers
  • Standing back and allowing people that are exiting leave before you enter a room or building

*Friends and family! Here’s a simple way to put it: If what you are doing fits the instruction *be nice* it’s probably courtesy.

*Colleagues! Try some of these *team builders*:

Confidence-Building Skills for Meeting New People VickiTillmanCoaching.com

Here’s one new thing to get started with: Confidence-building skills for meeting new people. Click here for this FREEBIE!

  • Smile as you walk into a room
  • Thank admins and people who help you
  • Compliment team members
  • Find the positive whenever possible

Courtesy is cool. It makes you cool. And it helps you be employable. Make it a habit!

If you’d like to work more on this, other job skills, or life transitions, contact me. We can coach in person, via phone or Skype.

3 Reasons Why Courtesy is Cool and Makes You Cool and Employable

Filed Under: Healthy Lifestyle, Skills for Success Tagged With: Courtesy

Reader Interactions

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Primary Sidebar

Search

Testimonial

  • Career Exploration was a tremendously empowering experience for my teens and young adults. Three of my children worked through Vicki Tillman’s Career Exploration Workbook while they were high school students and learned so much about what types of steps they were best suited to take following graduation. My older son had missed out on the course as a teen and went back to use the workbook as a twenty-something when faced with the need for a job change; he was delighted with the direction he found after working through the exercises. I cannot recommend this resource too highly! Every teen and young adult will find greater understanding of their unique gifts and interests and how those qualities can influence career choices for a fulfilling future in the work world.

    - SJ

Schedule an Appointment

Want to get started? Book an appointment through my Calendy.

Sign-up for Vicki’s Newsletter

Footer

What We Do

  • Coaching Services
  • Speaking Services
  • Other Services

Social Media

Sign-up for Vicki's Newsletter!

Contacting Us

Email: Vicki@VickiTillmanCoaching.com

Call: 302-738-6859
Pike Creek Psychological Center
8 Polly Drummond Hill Rd
Newark, DE 19711

Form: Setup an Appointment

© 2023· Vicki Tillman Coaching · All Rights Reserved