What is 20-something world implosion? How to un-implode it?
20-Something World Implosion: How to Un-implode!
20-Somethings are some of my favorite coachees. Here’s something I’ve noticed with many of you:
Your world implodes in the 2 years after college!
What is *world implosion*?
When you’re in college there’s a lot of life happening organically. You naturally know people from classes, dorms, organizations and activities. You develop GREAT friendships. Often, you find a significant other. And you really didn’t have to work that hard at making these relationships. They happen because of proximity: you are simply around each other. Proximity gives you a world, a life!
Then graduation happens… and people get real jobs, real careers, in really far-away places. Very often the wonderful peer-group of college days spreads out all over America.
What happens next is you are going to work, coming home, maybe stopping at the gym on the way home. Then the next day you are going to work, coming home, maybe stopping at the gym on the way home.
Before you know it, it feels like you DON’T have a world, and WHAT’S a life?
Sound familiar? Well then: 20-Something world implosion…how to un-implode?
Here are 3 steps to un-implode your world:
- Get out of denial. You aren’t going to get a life the way you got a life in college. Life usually doesn’t happen like that once you’re in the workforce.
- Face the need to get busy. I know you’re tired, but you’re going to have to get busy anyway- doing NEW things.
- Start exploring. Find a new thing to do each week. Look online. Local online news sources or meet-ups often list open activities of community organizations. Find a group that is doing something interesting or useful (running or hiking groups, book clubs, Habitat for Humanity, churches- things like that). Plan on visiting 2 groups a month until you find your thing(s).
- Visit the first time, use your social skills. Download the FREEBIE Confidence-Building Skills for Meeting New People for tips on breaking into a new group. Remember, when you’re the newbie in a group, the group has to prove itself to you (*Are they friendly?*) not you proving yourself to the group (NOT: *Are you interesting?*).
- Keep exploring. Eventually you will land on a group that is so much fun and so friendly that you’ll keep going back. Those people will become your new peer group.
- As you keep the adventure going, your world will become bigger– not in the same way it happened in college. When you’re 20-Something world un-implosion won’t really be organic; it must be intentional!
One thing that really helps when you’re un-imploding your world is to know yourself well and feel comfortable with who you are. The best way to do this is to work with a life transition coach. Contact me today to get started on the adventure of un-imploding your world!
Really great subject and really good advice, speaking as a 20-something!
Vicki Tillman says
I remember this time in my life so clearly … I was only meeting new people at work but jumping from job to job to meet people didn’t really make sense!
Vicki Tillman says